Hi, I’m Leandra Vane.
Welcome to Needle & Bow.
I started this blog because I want to create a place where the prickling emotions and experiences in life can live next to the delicate and the playful. I want to wear cute dresses and talk about death. I want to sip coffee and explore fear. I want to swipe on mauve lipstick, step out into the rain, and change the world.
I want to unravel the pain in our daydreams. I want to paint roses on our concrete walls. I want you to join me.
I built my writing career as a sex writer. I have written about my experiences with kinky sexuality and my body battles living with a disability. I’ve written personal essays, romance, erotic romance, and reviewed sexuality books as The Unlaced Librarian (which I still do). I put it all out there, though not entirely without consequence.
I’m not ashamed of how I got here. I will continue to write romance and about sexuality, because those are an important part of my life.
But there’s more to me and my life.
I started writing about sexuality to break out of the demands to fit tidy into a category, a box, a polite corner of society. But in doing that, I simply found myself placed in another category, box, and corner. It’s time for me to pack up the good things I want to keep from my past and take them with me as I grow my writing and art.
In the past few years I’ve had a shattering shift in my perspective. I emerged from a round of severe health issues and feel like I’ve finally healed from some traumas and mental cruxes that were holding me back. In many ways, I feel like I’ve truly been given a second chance at life.
I’m living a life I love now, and I owe that to hard work, luck, timing, embracing spirituality, polishing up my look, and fine tuning my attitude. And that’s what I want to write about now, more than ever.
I’ve always wanted to start a personal growth or lifestyle blog, but I never thought I could. Actually, I still don’t know if I can, but I’m going to try.
I started this blog to write about all the things that make my life better.
There will be book reviews about motivation, leveling up, and inspiration.
Gravel roads and wood sided churches.
Black lace and cemeteries.
Firelight, fireflies, and wind chimes in the summer.
Brick streets at night and sorrow and joy and fantasies.
Homemaking, life making, relationship making. Being a boss. Being vulnerable.
And so much more, as I discover where I’m going.
Thanks for keeping me company here as I unpack my suitcase to stay a while.
This is Needle & Bow. Welcome.